Understanding Our Value
Have you ever felt like you were trying to conform to a certain way of doing something? A certain norm that just didn't resonate, and felt like a struggle? And did it make you feel like you were misunderstood, less than, or that what you had to offer wasn't valuable?
As a movement-based performing artist who connects with people and processes the world on a more somatic-emotional intelligence plane, I have spent a lot of my life feeling inarticulate, slow, and misunderstood. I'm not always quick with my words, and I don’t always know the immediate “right” thing to say. My coaching style has nothing to do with having the answers or the fast-paced quick fix that we are often numbingly addicted to; and everything to do with slowing people down long enough to listen to what they already know in their bodies to be their truth. There is a lot of stillness. It’s uncomfortable and it works. That being so outside of the norm of how our society functions (sadly), I struggled with standing in the power of the value I had to offer the people I most want to serve.
And then one of my mentors while I was in training said this to me during a powerful coaching session:
“You don’t need words, you are powerful without them”.
It was like he reached into my soul and plopped my heart right into my hands with such compassionate force that I could no longer hide from myself. I felt so seen by him for who I am at my core. And I was able in that moment to connect to everything I actually can speak from. And more importantly share with the people that I love, the people that I coach, and with the world at large. But up until that point, I had been spending so much energy just trying to explain myself and the things I do for a living, that I couldn’t even see that listening to intuition, embracing vulnerability, holding complexity, connecting to emotional energetic vibrations, and seeing people for who they are at the wholeness of their core (as my coach had done for me), are among the greatest gifts I have to offer. I am enough. No need to explain or package myself differently just to fit into a norm.
I had a good messy cry after that and something in me shifted for good.
So I'm sharing this with you because if you're feeling stuck, trying to fit into someone else's way of doing things, or some “norm” that doesn’t feel right, know that you're powerful without that norm. You have a way that is specific to you that has value and can reach people. And you don't have to hide behind a norm that doesn't serve you.
You have power in another way. What is it?
Sending Full Moon Love,
Tara